On my own personal journey from illness to wellness I have changed many things. One of the things that I have changed is the way that I talk to myself.
I used to beat myself up for what I perceived as failures and ways that I had let myself down.
And I found this to be highly counter-productive. Some people may respond to short term self-criticism. Long term, it is not a great strategy. It becomes defeatist and a narrative that is hard to get outside of. You end up believing all of these false beliefs you have told yourself.
So I started being kinder to myself and speaking to myself as if I were talking to my best friend.
This was a game changer for me. Once I changed my inner dialogue I truly started to think differently about who I was as a person. I started to value and believe in my own worth.
It was a relatively simple thing to do, but took a decades for me to get to this point.
Being a women, the media and advertising has told me that I need to perfect every single part of my body. And if I was not perfect, that with some product, clothing item, or specific makeup item...I would me MORE. I would be more beautiful, have more of a perfect body, whatever.
And men, you also have your own set of standards that have been put in front of you via the media and ads...This is something that pertains to everyone. We are being told we are not enough.
I'm here to tell you that what you have been told by society and possibly through your own self-talk is not true. You are enough and you are worth value.
When we start to talk to ourselves in ways that are productive, loving, and with supportive language, going after our goals is a little easier.
Treat yourself well and be kind with with the words you choose to tell yourself.
You are the only you, you have. Take care of yourself. Once you support you, you can start to go after goals, hopes, and dreams more easily.
Be kind. Be your own best friend. Speak to yourself as if you were talking to that friend that you care a lot for. Positive self-talk leads to positive actions. And positive actions create better interactions between those that you love and care for. In the end, when you care for yourself, you care for others.
Miss Oakley
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