It is Okay to Love Myself, Imperfections and All

Dear Diary on the Internet,

It has been a while and that is okay. Life gets busy. There has been a topic that I have been drawn to lately and want to get it out there, so here I go.

I am a woman of a certain age. An age where the pressure to hide this age is constant. It is plastered throughout the media in every avenue. Commercials tell me ways to be more beautiful, magazines show advertisements of products to mask my age, and the internet has every tip imaginable on how to look younger. The list goes on and on.

And it bothers me.

Why? Because I love who I am.

I love my imperfections and appreciate what my body is capable of doing. I feel beautiful.

This has not come naturally though. It has been a long journey to self-acceptance.

Throughout the years I have probably hated every single body part of mine and tried to do something to perfect it.

Here's a couple areas of myself where I always thought I would one day improve and therefore be perfect:

Up until my wedding I did not like my back. Then I started trying on wedding dresses and I started to like this back of mine for the first time. Why? Because my back has always had my back. Because it is strong. Because it is a part of me.

My nose was something I took issue with for years. When I was in my teens the big plan was to get a nose job. Then I realized that I have the same nose as my brothers. And if I changed it, it would make us different. So I decided to embrace it.  I have a great sense of smell and it gives me character. It's a good nose.

There is a gap in between my front teeth. I have had braces twice in my life. And closed the gap. And you know what? I didn't like it. Why? Because I did not look like myself. So I let the gap come back. And I love it. My teeth are healthy and strong. Without them, I would not be able to enjoy the great food that I eat every day.

Why am I telling you my imperfections? Because it has been a long road to get to this point and I am not going to let society tell me to change myself after I have worked so hard to love myself as is.

I am perfectly imperfect.

Society says I need to be vigilant about hiding my age and need to look youthful. And I find this absolutely insulting. Because I like my age and I like that I look older.

Why should I bend for society anyway? Society doesn't know me. I know me. And I like who I am.

In recent decisions to go against this model of perfection I am told I should be...I have decided to let my gray hair be and not cover it up.

This decision has not been supported by ONE other female in my life. And although it saddens me. These other women are not me. My responsibility for self-love is only towards myself. It is not my job to take ownership of what other people think of my decisions. My responsibility is to myself and to accept me. And I do.

I think the gray that is starting to show up in my hair is really beautiful. It is like natures natural highlights. And I am going to go with it.

The whole point of this post is that it has taken me decades to become comfortable in my own skin. And now that I am there, I will not let one other person let me think that I am not beautiful just because I am getting older.

It is also okay to love yourself as you are. Today, I am the best version of myself. Tomorrow I will be one day older, and I am going to choose to embrace what that brings. This is how I chose to think about life. And it has made living more enjoyable.

So I am going to go ahead and love myself. What is the worst that could happen?

Miss Oakley

Fix Your Food, Fix Your Health: An Overview of The AutoImmune Protocol (AIP), Paleo Diet, and Reflections of My Two Year Journey

Dear Readers,

A couple months ago, I did a 30 day trial of the AutoImmune Protocol Diet (or AIP.) A friend of mine decided to do it for health reasons and I did it along with her to support her. Additionally, I was curious if any of the foods that are restricted on AIP were triggers for me. I have been eating Paleo for about two years now. I'm allergic to dairy and gluten and they both caused many health issues. I did not know this, instead I thought I was very sick and had to be on numerous medications. Little did I know that it was my lifestyle and what I was eating that was making me sick. Paleo restricts both dairy and gluten and since following it I  am now off of approximately 12 different medications for various issues. I stick to Paleo because I have underlying conditions. It's not a "diet" for me. It's a healthy lifestyle and a way for me to manage my health without medications. I've healthier and feel better than...well, than ever. I have never felt this good on a consistent basis.

In the past I had been diagnosed and medicated for the following conditions:
Migraines
IBS
Cervical Cancer
Acid Reflux or GERD
Anxiety
Depression
Insomnia
Fibromyalgia
Lupus
Acne
Allergies
Asthma
A weird sweating disorder...And a bunch of other conditions I cannot remember off the top of my head.

Through lifestyle changes and a complete nutrition overhaul, I am now on ZERO medications and have NO health issues. This is first for me. I spent almost three decades being sick. I now am healthier and happier than I ever have been.

For Lifestyle Modifications I did the following:
Left a long-term relationship that was not working
Left a sales career that was very stressful
Went to Graduate School
Changed Careers
Started Exercising Daily
Quit Drinking Alcohol
Stopped Using Medications
Adopted a Paleo Diet
Found a Partner that Embraced my Lifestyle
Consistently Evaluated my choices to see if what I was doing, was actually working. This involved a lot of self-reflection and was a process.

This was not easy. But it has been worth it. That is my back story and what led me to try AIP for 30 days.

I am constantly "experimenting" on myself and this is yet another experiment.

My goal with AIP  was to try and see if I can heal any other remaining issues in my gut. That is what AIP is for. It is used to heal issues in the gut that are causing you autoimmune health issues. AIP is THE BEST diet for anything autoimmune you have going on. If you have symptoms of a "leaky gut" AIP may be for you! Here are leaky gut symptoms: (You can find the source at: 9 Signs You Have a Leaky Gut)
1. Digestive issues: gas, bloating, diarrhea, IBS
2. Seasonal allergies or asthma
3. Hormonal imbalances such as PMS or PCOS
4. Diagnosis of an autoimmune disease such as rheumatoid arthritis, Hashimoto's thyroiditis, Lupus, Psoriasis, or Celiac Disease
5. Diagnosis of Chronic Fatigue or Fibromyalgia
6. Mood issues such as Depression, Anxiety, ADD, or ADHD
7. Skin issues such as Acne, Rosacea, or Eczema
8. Diagnosis of Candida Overgrowth
9. Food allergies or food intolerance's

Any of these things look familiar? If so, read on.

Again, AIP is not a "diet" to lose weight. I have never and will never be on a diet.

AIP is a nutritional solution to fix medical conditions WITH FOOD, NOT MEDICATIONS. It's something you do when you have tried everything else and you want to feel better. And you want to do it without prescriptions and side effects from those medications that create new issues.

Also, it is important to state that I have gone from being dependent on doctors and medications...to now being dependent on myself. I. I also am off EVERY SINGLE ONE of my medications. And I did this alone, by experimenting on myself and not under the medical model. (Note: this is not for everyone. This worked for me and that I all I can attest to.) When I first drafted this, I had not seen a doctor for two years. I have since went in for a yearly physical and my doctor was astounded! She said I was a completely different person and asked me how I did it! So, I told her. She was shocked and could not believe I was not on ANY medications. I have since gotten my labs back and I am in perfect health thanks to my newly adopted lifestyle choices.

The last two years I have been following the Paleo diet. Again, it is not a "diet" to lose weight. It basically consists of foods that our ancestors ate. A lot of whole foods, good meats, and vegetables.

What is not allowed in Paleo: Grains, Dairy, Soy, Legumes, Processed Foods, Refined Oils, and Sugars. Basically all food that cause of a lot of medical conditions:

What is allowed: Delicious meats and vegetables/fruits.

If you ever consider going Paleo, focus on what you CAN have: wonderful foods. Not what you cannot have. That makes it feel restrictive and it's not. I have enjoyed delicious paleo foods for over two years and have had zero complaints.

Here is a food pyramid for Paleo:

AIP is still Paleo, just with some additional limitations. The limitations are due to health conditions that may be the culprit of certain restricted foods. Again, AIP is not a "diet" but a way to fix several autoimmune issues.

Here is what is included in AIP:

The difference between Paleo and AIP:

Eliminate Permanently	Eliminate for 30 Days and Reintroduce
Processed Food	Eggs
Refined Oils & Sugars	Nightshades (both vegetables and spices)
Grains	Nuts
Legumes	Seeds
Soy	Dairy

- See more at: http://www.phoenixhelix.com/2013/05/19/what-is-the-paleo-autoimmune-protocol/#sthash.JT8Afo2y.dpuf

In addition for 30 days you must avoid:
No alcohol (fine to use in cooking, but not to drink) 
No stevia 
Nothing that comes from a seed, which means no cocoa, coffee or seedbased spices 
No emulsifiers or thickeners (guar gum, carrageenan, etc) 
No NSAIDs – Caution: if you are taking NSAIDs to control the pain of autoimmune disease, do not stop taking them cold-turkey. 
Fruits Limit fruit to 2-5 servings per day. - 
See more at: http://www.phoenixhelix.com/2013/05/19/what-is-the-paleo-autoimmune-protocol/#sthash.JT8Afo2y.dpuf

To further reflect on the two year process up to this 30 day AIP challenge:
For the last year or two I also have not really drank. At all. And I have been eating healthy. 99% of the time I already follow a Paleo nutritional diet. The only times I have gone off Paleo were accidental (eating out, or eating someone else's cooking.) What I have found with this is that I now longer use the excuse of social obligations to binge eat or drink. Now, when I go to something, it is because I WANT to be there. It's not to serve a hidden agenda of mine. Yes, turning down drinks and fun food is sometimes hard. However, if I'm truly honest with myself: those things no longer serve my greater purpose. I no longer am attached. I have given myself permission to not drink. For the first year of my not drinking, I "fake drank" while with other people. And this felt in-genuine I also felt like a phony and that was living a double life. So in year 2 of not drinking: I started telling people that I no longer drink. And you know what?? They were okay with it. Why? Because I was okay with it. Not drinking is a personal choice and it has nothing to do with being Paleo or not. This is included because it has helped me along my journey. Also for AIP, alcohol is off limits. Which was fine with me, as I no longer drink.

That being said...

Here are my reflections at various times along my 30 day AIP Journey: Of note: I thought I would really miss eggs, chocolate and fruit. Below is a the diary I kept along the way:

One day in: This may be hard, even for someone that already eats Paleo. I have been off eggs and nuts for about a week already in preparation. I think I'm going to really miss tomatoes and mushrooms. Also, the above stated eggs and nuts. I think I'll really miss those guys. As long as I can have avocados I know I will be fine. My feeling is that "an avocado a day, keeps the doctor away."

Two days in: Spices can change things up in magnificent ways! I'm loving basil, garlic, and cinnamon right now.

Three days in: I have lost cravings for everything I thought I craved. I am now re-defining life. Everything is okay. Life is okay. I can do this. No longer do I want chocolate or even to sweeten things with stevia (my version of sugar.) Right now all I want is squash, vegetables, and good meat/seafood.

Six days in: We went to a wedding and I ended up bringing my own food. I suspected that there would not be any AIP foods available, and I was mostly right. Although the food they had looked delicious...so did my dinner that I brought. So as to not be rude, I went into the bathroom with my cooler and dumped my food onto my plate. And you know what? No one at my table cared. It was hard to pass up the delicious cupcakes, but I no longer crave anything really so it was fine.The girlfriend that I am doing AIP with, was also at the wedding and brought her own food as well. We were glad we kept to AIP and did not fall off track. I really do want to see how good I can feel and if I have any remaining issues with certain food groups.

One week in: I no longer have cravings for anything. Except squash. It's fall now and squash is very "in." Right now I am eating is for nourishment. I have been able to be more productive and can prioritize my wants versus my needs.

Week two: This was a really busy week. I had a conference, wedding, work, school, and workouts... and had to juggle all the areas of my life. I tried to plan as best that I could. My main goal was not to be hard on myself when I was put into situations that I could not control and therefore had to eat something that may have had a non-AIP spice on it. This was mainly at the conference and at the wedding. At the conference I had some chicken with a glaze on it and I'm not certain what was in the glaze. I tried eating in my car the food I brought, but I only had 3 minutes and couldn't chew it fast enough. Then at the wedding, I ate what I could that was AIP. However, again, you don't know what spices are used and how everything is cooked and prepared. Also, I was exhausted from the week before. So, I did the best I could and that is okay with me. I got a lot of things done this week, yet felt scattered. However, I did work out a lot and almost surprised myself with how much energy I had in the gym!

Week three: This week has started with me feeling exhausted. And that's due to both this AIP protocol and my busy life. I am okay with this. It is starting to get hard, but I'm dedicated to it. The first and second weeks for me were more of like an AIP honeymoon. Now, I'm more tired. However, I'm okay with being tired. There is an upside to this! For the last week I have been super focused at work and school. I'm not sure if it's because I'm tired or what, but I am getting more things done. I am dedicated to AIP, because I feel like I owe it to myself to see how good I can feel. And I want to know for sure which food groups give me issues. Right now I am more task oriented and not so much fitness oriented. I may have pushed myself too far last week as far as exercise goes. So far this week, I have stuck to lighter workouts such as yoga and pilates. As I write this, the week is only half over, so we shall see what the rest of the week brings. 

Week four: I did it! 30 days are done! I didn't really miss any of my favorite foods, except eggs. That will be the first thing I add back in. Four week of no chocolate, what a first!! I have become more productive during my time with AIP. Now I am going to start adding in foods with the use of a food sensitivity tracker to see which foods give me issues.

Now after doing this for 30 days it is SUPER important that you re-introduce foods one at a time to really determine which food groups give you issues. I am a fan of technology, so I used this app: BulletProof Food Sense App This app tests your heart rate in the morning. Then before you eat meals you test again, and then at different increments after you eat. This gives you factual evidence as to what foods give you issues.

I am posting this a couple months after doing AIP and there are some foods that I just really never added back in: Nuts were one of them. They make me bloated. So I now eat them rarely and just a couple at a time. Also, I never really added tomatoes back in as they give me mild acid reflux. I eat them time to time, but before I ate them everyday and did not realize they caused me issues. I also now eat a lot less chocolate and fruit. I have them both on very rare occasions. I love chocolate, don't get me wrong, I just got used to not having it and sometimes forget about it! I have found that fruit has a lot of sugar and fructose in it and unless I lift heavy one day, I really don't have it. On average I will have 1-2 pieces of fruit a week.

I still to this day stick to Paleo. I am highly allergic to both dairy and gluten. Dairy causes severe inflammation, bloating, and acne for me. And gluten gives me migraines, makes me feel tired, and I get brain fog when I eat it. So, although I did this for 30 days, it is not something that I will need to do long term. If you are having any of the above autoimmune/leaky gut symptoms AIP may be something you need to try.

It is important to note that every single person is different. And that means a different diet. And although Paleo and AIP worked for me, they may not for you. Although, I think we all can agree that gluten overall is bad for just about every single person. There is a lot of conflicting information on the internet about AIP and  you know what? That's okay. The reasons it conflicts is because it is written by individuals with their own stories and their own unique needs. The most important step in the process is that you are willing to TRY SOMETHING NEW. You are willing to experiment on yourself. After all, you are worth it. Had I not done the AIP 30 day challenge, I would not have known that nuts make me bloated and tomatoes sometimes make me burp. It was worth it. Also, I have stopped eating as much fruit and chocolate and I have been able to lean up more. But, that is for another post.

Please let me know if you have questions! I post a lot of my Paleo meals on Instagram! You can find me at: http://instagram.com/myhealth_llc Also, I tweet health and wellness related information on twitter: https://twitter.com/MyHEALTH_llc

Had I not done this, I would have never known my trigger foods. Have you ever thought about how food is related to health?  Are there any food experiments that you have done? Are you sick of being sick and wondering if food has anything to do with it? If so, ask questions! Get curious! Your health is your business and you have the right to know have food impacts your health!

I have a couple other health self-experiments that I am going to share with you on the blog as well. So look forward to that!

Be Well,
Miss Oakley

Owner of My HEALTH, llc
Rehabilitation Counseling Graduate Student
Career Coach and Job Developer
Wellness and Health Enthusiast

A Journey Called Life

Dear Readers,

Life can sometimes be a wild ride. At times, it's an endurance test. It can be both beautiful and challenging. In short: life is a journey.

Journey's take time and they are comprised of trips, detours, maps, and can sometimes be a series of getting lost.

And that is okay.

Life is not about the final destination, but rather the journey that it takes to get there.

It takes both ups and downs to get through life. The downs make the ups more beautiful and rewarding. The ups make the downs bearable and worthy of getting up to face another day.

Your journey is unique and individual. No two people follow the same path.

There is a proverb that says "All roads lead to Rome."

And that is true.

Not every one will follow the same path to get to their final destination.

Your path at times may not be clear and you will have to fight through the dark to find your next step. And that also is okay.

Because life is unique to us all, so is our journey. It is therefore, counterproductive to compare your journey against that of another person. They are not on your path and have not lived your life. So why are you comparing yourself to them?

The only person you can compare yourself against is: the person you were yesterday. Strive to be better than you were the day before. Embrace your journey and own it as your own. You are unique and so is your path.

Miss Oakley
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Gratitude Changes Attitude: Ways to Practice Gratefulness

Dear Readers,  

                                             
Gratitude is a game changer to our perspective on life.

In life, the more grateful we are, the more it creates a positive outlook to our current situations.

It's all about how you look at things.

Life is 10% what happens to us, and 90% the attitude about what happens to us.

Charles R. Swindoll has said:
"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The remarkable think is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only think we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes." 

When you choose to be grateful about life and the experiences it gives you...your mindset begins to change. 

Practicing gratitude can be easy and very rewarding.

Ways to practice gratitude:

• Keep a small journal on you- write down the things you have to be grateful for on a daily basis in a notebook. On bad days, you may have to really look for things. It could be something as simple as: "I'm grateful for this pen and this paper, it gives me ways to express my joy of life." I have a friend who writes down rather comical things about her life in her gratitude journal. She is thankful in situations that may irritate others. Yet, she chooses to find the humor in her gratitude. It is the humor around the situation that gets her through unfortunate times. She often finds the funny in the unfunny. 
• If a pen and paper are not your style, you could keep a running list on the notepad of your phone/computer. That way, you could update your gratitude journal on the go. 
• You can also practice gratitude in the moment. If someone does something kind, make sure you honor their kindness by letting them know they are appreciated. Kindness in life is not required. Make sure the other person knows you recognized their efforts. A little goes a long way.
• Practicing gratitude can also be done for others that have not done anything for you. Like when it comes to volunteering. You can choose to give back because you are grateful for the things you have, when others have less. Volunteering is an extension of gratitude. 
• Mindful meditation is another way that you can express gratitude. I do this while hiking or going on walks. I don't take my phone with me, but rather stay present in the here and now. I appreciate the sounds of the birds tweeting, the smell of the grass, and the breeze in the air. I let negative thoughts float by me in my mind and focus on the good in the moment: The ground beneath my feet and the fact that I have the privilege to go on this walk. 

Numerous research has stated that our attitude and gratefulness is what gets us through the often tedious tasks of living life. Life throws a lot our way and it is important to have positive strategies to fight negativity. Even the negativity in our own minds.

When we practice gratitude it impacts our attitude on life. The more grateful we are, the more positive our attitudes will be. 

So go ahead, allow yourself to adopt an attitude of gratitude. Life is, in fact, all about perception. Perceive it with gratefulness. 

Miss Oakley

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There Is No "Normal"

Dear Readers,

"Normal" is a word that gets thrown around a lot. 

It's used to describe everything from relationships to what we have having for dinner.

It's also a word I strongly dislike.

The reasons for my dislike are many. Mainly, it is because using "normal" is yet another way we compare ourselves to our ideal of what is accepted in society. 

Also, there is nothing that is "normal." Everything, everyone, and every situation is unique.

Your definition of "normal" and the "normal" of another person could be completely different. 

For example: The "normal' work weeks of the following four people:

Person 1: works 40 hours a week, Monday through Friday. This is their normal.

Person 2: works 60 hours a week, 7 days a week. This is their normal.

Person 3: works 32 hours a week, on weekends only and at night. This is their normal.

Person 4: works part time at two jobs, hours and days vary. This is their normal.

Each person in the above example has their own "normal." Yet, their "normal" is not in line with any other person's.

Here is another example of a "normal" gym schedule for the following four people:

Person 1: Works out Mon, Wed, Fri after work. This is their normal.

Person 2: Does not work out, takes the stairs when they can. This is their normal.

Person 3: Works out twice a week. This is their normal.

Person 4: Works out every day in the morning. This is their normal.

What I am trying to get you to see, is that "normal" for one person, does not translate to "normal" to another person. "Normal", therefore, is an internal and personal definition. Not an outward one to judge ourselves against.

So, why do we then compare ourselves to other's "normal" when everyone's "normal" is different and unique to their situation??

My challenge to you is to re-define "normal." When you use it to define yourself, you are actually comparing and therefore, restricting yourself to the definition of what another person/society holds.

Society tries to make us fit into neat little "normal" boxes. And this just does not work. Humans are very unique and no two people are alike. 

I challenge you to stop and think about your use of the word "normal." When you find yourself using it...expand on your definition. What are you really trying to say by using the word "normal"? What does "normal" mean to you? 

I myself do not use the word "normal" at all. Ever. For any reason. Typing this post is the first time I've written/said it in years. To me, "normal" is restrictive and counterproductive to our growth. We do not move forward when we compare ourselves to self-imposed standards of society. In order to move forward we need to be our unique selves. And that comprises a variety of situations and life experiences. 

There is no "normal." There are only unique people in unique situations, dealing with the task of living life. 

Miss Oakley

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Get Ahead Over The Weekend

Dear Readers,

Weekends are wonderful. They give you a break from work and the cycle that is life.

They also are time where most people take a break from their usual habits and let loose.

And letting loose is great. In fact, it's natural and healthy.

Here's a suggestion: Let loose in a way that SUPPORTS you in your overall goals, and not take you further from them.

For example: If your goal is to lose weight or get a new job... hitting up the park for a hike or volunteering would be in support of those goals.

The weekend starts on Friday and ends Sunday. By my count that is three days out of a total of seven that comprises your week.

Three days therefore consists of 43% of your total time.

If you cheat yourself out of the weekend, you are cheating yourself out of 43% of your week. You have worked hard for the other 57%.

The weekend allows you to keep going and literally give it 100%.

This post is not to make you feel bad, but to point out that the weekends are a great time to let loose IN WAYS THAT SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR GOALS.

Forbes recently posted an article that stated that there are 14 ways that successful people get ahead over the weekend: Successful people:
1. Make Time for Family/Friends
2. Exercise
3. Pursue Passions
4. Vacation
5. Disconnect
6. Volunteer
7. Plan
8. Socialize
9. Be Artistic
10. Socialize
11. Network
12. Reflect
13. Meditate
14. Recharge

Link to the Forbes article here: http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/02/22/14-things-successful-people-do-on-weekends/2/

Do something that is in line with your overall life goals and do that instead of things that take you further from your goals. You are worth it! Give it 100% and you'll reach your goals in no time.

Miss Oakley

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Allow Yourself to Be Human: Replace "But" with "And"

Dear Readers,

Your self talk and how you see yourself has a direct impact on how you feel about yourself.

You will often hear people trying to validate why they did not do something. This validation is negative and extremely counterproductive.

Example: "I didn't go to the gym today, but I will tomorrow."

The "But" in that statement is where you fail yourself.
Not only are you:
1) Being too hard on yourself by
stating what you did not do.
2) You are setting yourself up for future failure by trying to immediately remedy the first statement by making empty promises in the following statement.

How many times have you said: "I didn't ______, but _____"??

MANY.

Here is the deal: IT'S OKAY THAT YOU DID NOT DO SOMETHING.

Unless you signed a contract with yourself or others: most goals are and should be flexible. Given the fact that life is chaotic and changes.

It's okay that you did not do something. However it's the "BUT" that is taking you further from your goal.

Instead, you could say: "I didn't____AND, that's okay. Tomorrow is a new day."

You aren't bashing and making false plans with yourself. You're allowing yourself to be human (and not be

the superman/woman you wish to be.)

AND THAT'S OKAY!

It's okay to not immediately remedy the situation. It's okay to not do something.

You are human and you are not expected to have a perfect day each and every single day. You also do not need to publicly state what you did not do to others. The world will not stop spinning if you didn't work out...or if you didn't answer all your emails at work...or you didn't finish all the laundry. It may be inconvenient that you did not do these things...but at the end of the day, the world will keep spinning.

When you say that you did not do something and then add a "BUT" onto it, it's damaging to how you see yourself. You are making yourself a failure, when you are not.

You are human. And you won't get everything done every single day. AND that's okay. Tomorrow is a new day.

Miss Oakley

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